08 September 2009

Relaxation using visualization

This is a simple Visualization that helps you to reduce tension and Stress, totally suitable for meditation newbies.

How to do it:

1. Sit down, close your eyes, and direct your attention to your breathing, just as in the first excercise.

2. Be aware of every breathing in and breathing out.

3. Let your breathing go on autopilot and do not try to steer it.

4. Observe how the air slowly goes in through your nose, fills up your lungs, and goes out again.

5. Now you are ready to start the Visualization.

6. With every breath, you start to feel the positive energy into your lungs.

7. When you breathe out, imagine all negative feelings escape from your body together with the air you breathe out.

8. When you are totally relaxed, choose an image, a situation, or an environment that means rest, peace, and calmness for you.

10. Walk around (in your imagination) and enjoy every moment in your favorite surroundings.

11. Try to involve all your senses. Smell, taste, look, and feel as many details as possible.

12. Focus on this image and hold it in your mind as firmly as possible.

13. Enjoy this image in all its details and pay attention to all the emotions that accompany it.

14. Feel the tingling in your body, feel your muscles relaxing, and notice your body reacting directly to everything that you created in your mind

15. Continue this Visualization for as long as you like.

16. Any time you are ready to stop, take your attention back to the rest of your body and become aware of yourself being in the room.

17. Open your eyes.

18. You're done!

now i lay me down to sleep [[new blog]

I prayer to the Creator
My Soul He will keep
From hurt, from harm and
All of the Dangers
Protecting my family, friends
And even the strangers

Today was indeed a BEAUTIFUL day as i said it would be
That is just how powerful My words are so allow me to state this now that tomorrow will be an even more BEAUTIFUL day with a special surprise included. Mmm can't wait to see that gift!

The lesson i learned today outside of my Mid Day Message was Forgiveness.
It is often said that one of the hardest, thorniest and most difficult things we humans are ever called upon to do is to respond to evil with kindness, and to forgive the unforgivable. We love to read stories about people who've responded to hatred with love, but when that very thing is demanded of us personally, our default seems to be anger, angst, depression, righteousness, hatred, etc. Yet study after study shows that one of the keys to longevity and good health is to develop a habit of gratitude and let go of past hurts.

Want to live a long, happy life? Forgive the unforgivable. It really is the kindest thing you can do for yourself. Your enemy may not deserve to be forgiven for all the pain and sadness and suffering purposefully inflicted on your life, but you deserve to be free of this evil. As Ann Landers often said, "hate is like an acid. It destroys the vessel in which it is stored."

I did a blog earlier on How to forgive that even i have to learn to follow. The most important step with in these steps is No1: Realize that the hate you feel toward your enemy does not harm him or her in the slightest. Chances are, your enemy has gone on with life and hasn't given you another thought.

So in laymen terms, the hate i have built inside of me only hurts, well, me, and why in the hell would i want to harm myself? I don't. So i have to forgive them and move on.

One of today's accomplishments was actually accomplished last night before i closed my eyes. I was able to express my love and compassion for a friend with out getting caught in my feelings. Very difficult for me because i am such a cry baby but [He] understood completely. Which is not the response i expected but we must always expect the unexpected.

The person who touched my heart today goes by the name "QUEER bICTH". She is in a place where i was a few years ago feeling alone, and i can only speak for myself but i also felt unloved, pushed to the side, like i had no purpose but i NEED her to understand that the only way we can learn who we REALLY are is if we are alone to do so. Meaning this is a lesson for her. The longer it takes her to learn the lesson, the loner the lesson will be.

Today's art is "Healed Heart Mandala"

It speaks for itself

My horoscope read: Taking it easy and letting things happen will let opportunities continue to grow that are already underway. Situations beginning now will be cooperative and helpful to you as they progress. A general atmosphere of getting along together prevails and will continue to if you just go with the energy at hand.

It was perfect for my situation. I will do as it says.

We all are so blessed.
I smiling
are you?

How to forgIve

  1. Realize that the hate you feel toward your enemy does not harm him or her in the slightest. Chances are, your enemy has gone on with life and hasn't given you another thought.
  2. Look at the situation from an eagle's eye.
    Look at the situation from an eagle's eye.
    Make a list of the good things that emerged as a result of this awful experience. You've probably focused long enough on the negative parts of this experience. Look at the problem from a completely new angle; look at the positive side. The first item on that list may be long overdue because you have focused on the negative for so long. See if you can identify 10 positive outcomes of this experience.
  3. Look for the helpers. Fred Rogers (Mr. Rogers) related that, as a little boy, he'd often become upset about major catastrophes in the news. His mother would tell him, "look for the helpers." In your own nightmarish experience, think back to the people who helped you. Think about their kindness and unselfishness. Practice what you have learned from them.
  4. Look at the bigger picture. Was someone your "Good Samaritan"? In this biblical story, a traveler happens to come across a poor soul who was beaten up on the road to Jericho and left for dead. It's a lot easier to play the part of the Good Samaritan than to be the poor soul who is left bleeding and bruised on the side of the road. Perhaps this isn't all about you. Perhaps your trial provided an opportunity for others to rise to an occasion to provide you with help and support.
  5. Be compassionate with yourself. If you've ruminated over this problem for a long time, steering this boat into a new direction could take some time, too. As you try to make a new path out of the dark woods of this old hurt, you'll make mistakes. Forgive yourself. Be patient and kind to yourself. Extreme emotional pain has a profound effect on the body. Give yourself time to heal - physically and emotionally. Eat well. Rest. Focus on the natural beauty in the world. Give yourself permission to feel the emotions and process them. Don't bottle up the pain.
  6. Learn that the Aramaic word for "forgive" means literally to "untie." The fastest way to free yourself from an enemy and all associated negativity is to forgive. Untie the bindings and loosen yourself from that person's ugliness. Your hatred has tied you to the person responsible for your pain. Your forgiveness enables you to start walking away from him or her and the pain. Forgiveness is for you and not the other party. Freeing yourself through forgiveness is like freeing yourself from chains of bondage or from prison.
  7. Stop telling "the story." How many times this week did you tell "the story" about how badly you were hurt and how horribly you were wronged? How many times a day do you think about this hurt? It is a stake driven into the ground that keeps you from moving away from this hurt. Rather, forgive your enemy because it's the kindest thing you can do for your friends and family. Negativity is depressing - physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally.
  8. Tell "the story" from the other person's perspective. Actually imagine that you are the other person (the one who offended you) and use the word "I" when saying what that person would say. You, most likely, don't know exactly what s/he was thinking when this event unfolded but pretend that you do, and just go with the story that comes up in your head. Sit down with a friend, or maybe even the person you are trying to forgive, and tell the story as though you are that person. It is important to do this verbally and not just in your head. Realize in advance that this is not an easy exercise, but it holds great power. Your willingness to tell the story from the offender's perspective requires an effort at forgiveness. Also, realize that this is not a contradiction to the preceding paragraph since this perspective will change your story.
  9. Peace, peace
    Peace, peace
    Retrain your thinking. When your enemy and his or her evil actions come to mind, send him or her a blessing. Wish your enemy well. Hope the best for him or her. This has two effects. One, it neutralizes that acid of hate that destroys the vessel in which it is stored. The evil we wish for another seems to have a rebound effect. The same is true for the good that we wish for another. When you make yourself able to return blessing for hatred, you'll know that you're well on the path to wholeness. The first 15 - or 150 - times you try this, the "blessing" may feel contrived, empty, and even hypocritical but keep trying. Eventually, it will become a new habit and soon thereafter, the anger and pain that has burned in your heart will evaporate, like dew in the morning sun. This technique forces your mind to overcome the cognitive dissonance between hating someone and acting with compassion toward him or her. Since there is no way to take back the kind gesture to agree with your hatred, the only thing your mind can do is change your belief about the person to match. You will begin to say to yourself, "S/he is deserving of a blessing, and indeed, must need one very much."
  10. Maintain perspective: While the "evil" actions of your "enemy" are hurtful to you and your immediate surroundings, the rest of the world goes on unaware. Validate their meaning in your life, but never lose perspective that others are not involved and do not deserve anything to be taken out on them. Your enemy is someone else's beloved child, someone's employee, or a child's parent.

Mid Day Message

I am currently at the beauty shop getting my "hair did" and i was discussing with my hairstylist the arguement my sister and i had over her Father. Went like this:

Me: Will your father be there?
Her: Don't ask me about my daddy
Me: Your attitude is fucked up
Her:Your head is fucked up
Me: My head is fucked up cause your daddy was fucking me.Blame him.
Her: Its time for you to grow up and get over what you claim happened. The shit isn't real anyways.

She stormed out.

I ignored the argument.

Continue on with my day as tho nothing happened.

It wasn't until yesterday when i realized the suppressed emotions i had about the situation.
I read that as we grow up, we all learn how to suppress emotions – maybe we fear the emotion too painful to experience; maybe because of conditioning “children should be seen and not heard” “big kids don’t cry” – for whatever reason, difficult emotions, such as anger, sadness or fear in some form are suppressed. This process creates many problems for us. A build-up of old, unsettling emotions from the past deadens our aliveness, inhibits our creativity, muddles and confuses the expression of love in precious relationships. Further suppressing and keeping our emotions “under control” drains physical and emotional energy and can limit worthwhile daily activity. Most people are only vaguely aware that they carry what can amount to quite a heavy burden around and fewer still have any understanding that it is possible to release and resolve this toxic emotional accumulation.

In human experience one of the most common vents for suppression's of energy is to project it outside ourselves. We typically blame someone or something outside ourselves as a way to escape experiencing the hot contents of our own unfelt energies. By learning a specific model for taking responsibility for and accepting ownership of the emotional energies deep within – without judgment nor blaming anything or anyone else nor ourselves – we allow ourselves, or become willing to feel these energies. This process is effectively facilitated by using a natural breathing technique which is cleansing and healing.

The goal of life for all humans is to become happy and peaceful – open and receptive to the joy of aliveness, to one’s own higher creativity and the ability to give and receive love. The pressure cooker analogy [boiling potentially dangerous contents can heat them to the point where we say that a person “blew his top”]. A good example of this is road rage, where all the anger which has not been experienced in a healthy way explodes out of proportion to the situation. In a less dramatic but no less damaging way, suppressions of fear can lead to panic attacks or to an inability to take the smallest risk in life.

With in knowing this i want to apologize for going off.
I want to apologize for holding on.
I want to apologize for losing my cool
I want to apologize for not releasing my emotions earlier on in life
But i will not apologize for being human.
I am entitled to my mistakes.
And this was one, of many, that i have to learn from.

Today i ask the creator to heal my heart.
I also ask for guidance in doing so.
He knows that this pain is a burden.
He also knows that i wish to let go.

There are Six Steps to Letting Go of Your Past:

1. Write, talk, draw, paint, or otherwise tap into your thoughts and memories. Letting go of your past means honoring your memories.
2. Let go of the emotions and feelings of painful memories by letting them wash over you – you'll feel horrible during, but relieved and peaceful afterwards. Let go of your past by reliving it.
3. Go back and talk to the people involved, if possible. Letting go of your past can mean going back.
4. Share your real feelings; confess if it's appropriate. Letting go of your past means expressing your emotions. If you have to deal with your mistakes, then own up to your shame or guilt.
5. Apologize and ask forgiveness if you need to. Letting go of your past means being vulnerable.
6. Get help with uncontrollable urges to overeat, get stoned or drunk, or otherwise hurt yourself. Letting go of your past means burying your pride.

I have accomplished the first step. Now its time for step number two.

Good Morning World

First and Foremost i give Thanks to The Most High
for allowing me to see another day that is and will never be promised to me. Nor you. I choose to worship The Most High in spirit and in truth. I choose to glorify The Most High in everything I am and do today. I choose to love The Most High with all my heart, soul, mind and strength. I choose to always have a thankful heart and an attitude of gratitude.I choose to walk on the path of truth always in all ways. I choose to give The Most High my heart to love and serve. I choose to be a woman of honesty and character .

Today will be a beautiful day. This i can feel in my heart.

This morning's meditation went well, i focused on the root chakra. In order to have stability you have to make sure that the foundation is stable, thus starting at the root.

We must keep ourselves grounded.

I will need to stock up on more vitamins soon. The b12 [for energy] are almost done and by the time i get back to GA the prenatal pills will have been expired.
If you do not know, prenatal vitamins are good for hair skin, and nails. They also carry a great amount of iron. But still be cautious. Vitamins are still drugs and the wrong dosage can be harmful.

Last night i saw someone on my friends list in a dream, so i will shoot some energy there way and pray for the best.

For breakfast i will have apple bites and toast. Gotta keep this figure. [lol]

Beauty Shop appointment at 11am. Sadly my Baptist Pastoring Father believes that "black folk with locs, twists, and fros are lazy." So i will be getting my hair pressed again. This is the first time i have had heat on my hair in two years.
Heat on hair is a no-no. Learned that in cosmetology school.

The quote of The Day is:
Conquer the angry man by love. Conquer the ill-natured man by goodness. Conquer the miser with generosity. Conquer the liar with truth.

May seem hard but after practice it will become a piece of you.

Today i will take a visit to the Herb Shop, i bought a new book a few weeks ago and want to put it to use.

Yesterday i made a vow to myself to write as often as i can to keep the unwated feelings out of me. This will be my way of learning to express my emotions and feelings which is rare for a scorpio.

But enough about me, i have some reaching out to do.
Through out the day whisper to yourself "I am beautiful"
The more you say it the more you will believe it.

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now i lay me down to sleep

I prayer to the Creator
My Soul He will keep
From hurt, from harm and
All of the Dangers
Protecting my family, friends
And even the strangers
Today was another day of dealing with what we like to call life.
I am Blessed to see yet another day.
Especially with those nearest, seeing it with me.

The lesson learned today was "sponge"
I gave it that title because i realized that whatever someone closest to us is going thru, rather we know the situation or not, we as humans seem to soak up their energy and make it apart of our world.
A trait none of us can ignore..
My solution to this is be mindful of the frequencies i set out into the world, cause i want all of you happy.

One of today's accomplishments was talking to my mother about my molestation. All though it has been seven years since the incident, it will take a lifetime to get over those three years of pain. It is time to un-suppress those memories, release them, and move on so i can bring out the rest of the good in me.

The person who touched my heart today was Zyon. Who knew a simple thank you could pull you out of your darkest moments.

Todays art is

To me she is opening her mind to the universe and releasing/receiving energies.

Today my horoscope read "There'll be no messing around with a certain person in mind - ooh no - it's straight down the line, black and white and then - right on to the nitty-gritty! Sound a little too much? Maybe, but it's probably what you need to get the ball rolling with a particular project, so just bite your lip for a while."
Im just going to smile at that.

Tomorrow will be a beautiful day.
How do i know?
Because i said it. Our words hold power.

I give thanks.
So should you.

Flame meditation

In this meditation, you will focus on a candle flame.

Turn off the lights, making sure that you still have some light entering the room, so you have the room in semi-dark. You will light a candle and position it at a level when you can look at the flame without any strains. Try not to think of the flame or the candle. Every time we wander away in our thoughts we return to the candle-flame without judging. Instead of a candle you can also choose an apple, a flower or any other object as your object of meditation.

How to do it:

1. Have the candle at eye level so you can see the flame easily

2. Sit down, close your eyes and concentrate on your breathing, just as in the first meditation technique mentioned above

3. Be aware of each breathing in and each breathing out.

4. After taking a few breaths, open your eyes and focus all your attention to the flame.

5. Breathe deeply and steadily and stare at the flame. Don't think of the candle, the flame, or anything else. If your mind wanders away, just return it gently to the flame.

6. Breathe deeply and steadily and stare at the flame.

7. Continue simply focusing on the candel for the period of time you had set apart for this meditation exercise.

8. You can now close your eyes and try to see the object at the inside of your eyelids.

9. Try to visualize the flame as long as you can, but don't strain yourself.

10. When the image disappears or you start thinking of other things, just try to get the image of your object projected in front of your eyes again.

11. When the time is up, just take back your thoughts slowly to the environment around you, open your eyes, stretch your legs, and just be aware of the here and the now.

12. You're done!